REAL LIFE: “My dad won’t stop smoking around my new baby.”
"It stinks up the whole house honestly and I definitely know it's not good for our daughter."
The 34yo new dad explained that his wife, also 34 had recently given birth to their new daughter.
“She was born premature and we had to keep her in the incubator for sometime and the doctors let us take our baby girl home, yay!,” he explained. “Me and the wife and our family was happy to bring her home. She’s still a bit weak but is doing better and hopefully everything continues to go on well but we still have to keep precautions, etc.”
The problem arose when the posters 60yo father, a heavy smoker requested to come stay for a month after the baby arrived.
A new dad asks how he can navigate his father continuing to smoke cigars and cigarettes around his new baby after being asked not to.
“He is always smelling like cigarettes, dark nails from smoking and overall when he stays somewhere his smell ruins the whole house,” said the OP.
“I told him that ‘you can stay with us but don’t smoke in the house or near our house’. Well he comes and stays with us and day one he starts smoking inside the living room and lights up a cigar and starts smoking. It stinks up the whole house honestly and I definitely know it’s not good for our daughter.”
The OP and his wife gave the dad an ultimatum: “If you want to smoke, then leave my house.”
He did leave, but was not happy and is now mad at the OP.
“If you want to smoke, then leave my house we aren’t doing that here you know that our baby is premature and we need to take precautions!”
Commenters were quick to reassure the new dad that he made the right decision.
“Everyone knows the dangers of second hand smoke these days, you’re not only protecting your little one but you and your partner as well,” wrote one.
Another added: “Specifically in infants, smoking indoors around is a major risk factor for SIDS. It’s not just unpleasant, it literally risks a child’s life.”
Another went further to say: “Hell, I’d ask him to shower and change before he held her, let alone not smoke inside!”
What do you think, would you have let him stay?
